Precious Chong writes about What she Thinks, What she Knows
Holy smokes! Where have I been? Iím sorry Iíve slipped up on my writing. Iíve been busy, being/acting/feeling crazy. It happens every so often. Where I lose my perspective and start looking for trouble. Iím being vague I know. I just was having a hard time putting words on the paper because I felt so sh**ty and I kept waiting for it to pass and well itís just time to face the music. Hormones? Perhaps. Chemical imbalance? Maybe? Residue from a difficult year? Probably. My birthday is on Sunday? Yup.
You see Iíve always been hung up on my birthday, even when I was a kid. I distinctly remember being 11 and really being sad about turning 12. I was at the park with my baby brother and I was on one of those metal merry go rounds and it was in the afternoon. I felt so wistful about the time passing and I was really comfortable being 11. I really liked it. Plus I didnít want to get old.
OkayÖMy grandmother who is in her 90ís, but we donít know for sure, because she wonít tell anyone how old she is, is also neurotic about her age. As is my mother and now meÖI mean the irony is that because Iíve been this way my whole life I feel like Iíve wasted a lot of time being upset about getting older when I wasnít old. And nowÖwell now Iím starting to have something to cry about. Oh well.
But I donít just want to talk about my neurosis about my age and my birthday.
What have a learned in these years on the earth about myself and about life? What wisdom can I impart? I wrote a list. Itís from the end of one of the early versions of my solo show. It sort of a soul to-do list and it goes something like this.
Walk the edge.
Never ever care what other people think of you.
Okay. I know there are two more because I used to write it at the end of every show on stage and pin it to myself as the finale. It sounds corny but it worked in context believe me. But for the life of me I canít remember the other two things. So Iíll just work with what I can remember.
Walk the edge. Push boundaries. Explore the unknown. Donít get too comfortable. When I have that feeling of ďOh god, how am I gonna do this?Ē thatís good. Because itís in the unknown place that the unexpected happens. Which helped me remember one more.
Expect the unexpected.
Life usually happens in ways that are different than the ideas in our heads. Really it has a much better sense of humour and imagination than our egos. Wouldnít you say? Now I know there was one more. Give? That would be good. Give.
My acting teacher Julie always says that ďacting is givingĒ, which is such a great thing to remember. It gets you off yourself. Itís about the other person.
Since I wrote that list Iíve gotten married, had a son, hell, my own father has been in and out of prison. Lots has happened. What would I add to the list? Letís see, how aboutÖ
Donít f*** with the federal government of the United States.
Relationships are complicated and nothing is black and white or for that matter fair.
Anger may feel right at the time but it doesnít solve a thing.
Which I will sum up more poetically asÖ
ForgiveÖyourself, your spouse, your parents, your agents, your lifeÖ
I remember when I was on my way to University my parents had bought some books and wrapped them for me to open on the plane. One of the inscriptions my dad wrote was;
Enjoy your life, my dear, enjoy.
Because itís all just temporary anyway right so we might as well just hold it all as lightly as we can, stay curious, and enjoy.